Of all the posts I’ve written in recent years, one of them that just keeps provoking conversation, time and time again, is the article linked below that I published in September of 2013. It discusses the extra degree of difficulty involved in finding a new job when you’re simultaneously going through (or recovering from) a divorce. So if you happen to be going through this situation yourself, or know somebody who is, I’d invite you to give this earlier piece a quick read and review some of the earlier thoughts/suggestions I shared regarding this little-talked-about issue.
As you can imagine, these “double whammy” situations can be a source of tremendous stress for the folks needing to go through them. Not only do they tend to impact a person’s confidence to a significant degree, but also make it tough to devote sufficient focus to the job hunting process, as one often has to simultaneously rearrange many other critical aspects of their life in terms of housing, finances, child care, and the like. There’s also the possibility that one’s networking options will take a significant hit, as well, since in many cases certain friends and acquaintances end up “taking sides” between spouses — or generally feeling awkward about the situation — making them less willing to assist on the job front.
Frankly speaking, and outside of the most amicable cases, divorce just seems to be an ugly situation, all around. And while I suppose there are certain cases when such separations take place for all the right reasons, and could free up an individual to think more boldly and intentionally about their life and career future, I’d be hard-pressed to call that the norm. From all the e-mail I’ve received about this issue, I think most folks going through these cases tend to struggle, emotionally, under the weight of having to get two separate but important aspects of their life back on track.
So while I don’t think there are any easy answers or magic bullets in these situations, I’d invite anybody who has experience with the challenge of “job hunting during a divorce” to weigh in (anonymously or not) with any thoughts, tips, or advice they might have on the issue. And as I’d offered in my previous article, if any of you out there would actually be willing to chat or grab coffee with other people going through this process, e-mail me here and I’d be happy to facilitate some conversations. For those going through this unique challenge, talking with other people who can identify with it might help — and could bring some camaraderie and empathy to the equation, if nothing else!